Drama

In our daily life we get passed a lot of useless complications created by ourselves. That's what I like to call "drama". We put ourselves, our families, our friends and you name the others through hard time just because "we don't think it's right", or "what would other people think of us", or basic rejection of adopting new ideas and ways of dealing with happenings around us.

Scenario 1: A father sees that the best way to teach his kids how life is by letting them depend on themselves, learn from their failures, and make their own decisions. He told them specifically "Son/daughter, you've reached a certain age that you should be able to make your own choices and accept the consequences". They choose their education, career path, friends, type of life, and build their personal character from scratch. Finally, they find the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives and STOP right there. Dad: "Son/daughter, that's a tough decision to make and I only have the control over it." well because you basically can't!. What a liberal dad! In the end, the son/daughter usually get to marry the person they want. Dad does cause problems, but in the end he accepts the fact and love his son/daughter's new family. Why complicate things from the beginning then?! Admit to facts.

Scenario 2: A person has a new job and he's so excited about it. His manager encourages him to think out of the box and suggest new initiatives. He tells him that he is should abide by the values of the company that includes the courage to critic and fix anything going wrong to help in the development process. Days goes by and he notice a slight malfunction in his department's process. He goes to his manager to discuss it with him - all proud and fantasizing about a near promotion. His manager nods and as days go by he notices neglection and the "silent others" get promoted while HE remains in the same position for 1, 3, 5 years or should I say until he quites? Why complicate things from the beginning then. Be Transparent.

Scenario 3: A newly married couple who love one another and promise lifetime. The thing that drove them together was the passion both of them had for life and that they are both well developed and educated – simply "equal". Months pass by and the "support" they once had for one another changes into jealousy and competition to become better and dominant. Competition rises to the extent that they can't take it anymore so the husband tries to show up his "manhood" as being the "guardian" and wife should be a mom and stay home. Wife starts her feminist opinions and women rights, after all what age does the man think he's living in? One thing leads to the other and a divorce happens with people wondering what went wrong with the once thought as a good "equal" couple. Wake up, there's no "equality" in marriage as there's only one dominant. Why complicate things from the beginning then?! Get ready to Compromise.

Scenario 4: A group of four best friends who survived high school and college together - Nothing can break their bond. One got engaged, then married. Jealousy started crawling, but you know what? They're waiting for the "right person" and they're still 3 singles! The second one gets engaged and married to a some-what-right-person. Two more singles! One eager to get married and the other still waiting for the right person. The third gets engaged to a not-at-all right person ... ops one more left?! They still meet up every now and then they feel "sorry" for the one who's still single and is still waiting for the "right person", but guess what? She's the luckiest as they're facing real issues! Why complicate things from the beginning then? Make the right choice - no regrets.

Dislike the above? It's true and it's real! I'm not the type of person who would look at life in a negative way. I'm a realist and such contradictions happen. We assume that we're ideal people giving the freedom for others to criticize and decide, but the time comes when we decide "aah you know what? maybe I'm not that understanding" and take it personally to crush others life whether we know it or not. Cruel? Well it can never be changed unless we start changing ourselves.